Having a nervous or scared dog can be challenging for a dog owner. It takes a lot of patience and understanding. Whether your dog was born with a shy personality (the type that would rather hide than greet a new person) or had some bad experiences that made them fearful, you (understandably) would like them to be able to function in the world. The following are some tips that you can use to help your nervous dog to relax, which will make training and daily life generally easier. Many people find using a combination of some or all of these tips makes for a relaxed dog.

Play classical music

Studies have shown that playing classical music can calm dogs down.

Mat training

Many canine behaviorists and dog trainers use mat training as a way to teach dogs to relax while things are going on around them that may scare them. It gives them a “safe” place to lie down and a job (staying on the mat) to focus on, rather than the environment.

Doggy massage

Just like with humans, massage is a great way to get a dog to relax. It may take some time before your shy pup will even let you touch them like this, but once they realize the effect, they will love it

Be calm yourself

Dogs pick up on our own energy. If you are nervous about a situation, don’t take your dog there, it will just make their anxiety worse. Work on being quiet and calm when you are handling your nervous dog, to help them feel relaxed. Take deep breaths and don’t move fast or in big gestures. Getting low and sitting with your dog can help too.

Be consistent

Dogs like routine. Nervous dogs will be even more nervous if you keep changing the rules on them. Am I allowed on the couch or not? Can I jump up on people or not? Keeping your rules unchanged will help a nervous dog relax and be comfortable in your home.

Add distance

If your dog is nervous about certain things, such as people, dogs or cars, adding distance between the object and your dog can help them relax. Move far enough away that your dog gets comfortable enough that they will still work (i.e. respond to cues, take treats, etc.). This is your dog’s threshold point. Once you know that, you can work on slowly closing the distance using treats and positive reinforcement, while your dog remains calm.